WPDIscuz Overloading server

Admin Ajax Requests to the point of overloading my VPS! That's right, it doesn't matter if I have the "live" setting to 20 seconds or 3 minutes it still overloads the server and crashes the site. The only fix I've found is to TURN OFF the "live" update function which is a joke considering that's the whole reason why I decided to commit to this plugin. I've brought others into this to test the issue and something goes wonky when a user uploads a photo. Not always, but every so often. When that happens things go straight south and fast! I came to my wits end tonight when I literally had 6! visitors on the site, one was trying to upload a photo and it overloaded the server!